It’s that time of year when reflection and resolutions for the New Year abound. Some of your plans for the New Year may include changes: diet, lifestyle, job, hobbies, attitude. But what we want and what we do are two very different things.
I’ve had to make enormous changes to my lifestyle because of my health problems. My life is now completely unrecognizable from just two years ago, and some of the more positive aspects of the changes, like that to my diet and my detox routine, seem quite attractive to a lot of people I’ve talked to. But the most common things I hear when people speak about making changes to their own lifestyle are that ‘it’s not a good time’, or ‘I’ll definitely do it next month’, or ‘when I have some time to read up about it I’ll get started’…
Basically, if you are saying any of these things, you are not committing to change. And you will therefore not make any change.
Change is hard. It’s challenging to all aspects of life and to the sense of self that we use to protect ourselves and present to the world. Giving up comforts, especially food comforts, takes enormous willpower and motivation to reach a clear and intentional goal. So, the first step is to identify your goal. When you know that, you can then decide on the actual changes that need to be made to achieve the goal. These changes must be well researched and make full sense to you, so that when you waver on the road to making them there is plenty of evidence and reasoning behind your actions. If you forget why you are doing something, or you can talk yourself out of the change when things get tough, then staying on track will be much more difficult.
When you know the goals and the changes to reach them, then you just need to do one more thing. MAKE THE CHANGE! No waiting, no excuses, no ‘there’s a better time to start just around the corner’. There is one cold hard truth that we all have to accept at some point: there is never a ‘good time’. Change is hard whenever it’s done. The only thing that makes it possible is that we want it, we know why we want it, and we are willing to commit to it.
So what are you waiting for?! One thing I have become horribly aware of in the last two years is that life is very short. Time passes so quickly, and windows of opportunity close daily. There are things that we need, there are things that we want, and there are things that we believe we can only dream about.
I refute that – if we need, want or dream then we have goals. Goals are in the distance and we can draw a real and achievable route to them. And then we can take a step forward, move toward the goal and see just how brave we can be in sticking to the journey that we started to make our life what we want it to be. Nothing great was ever achieved by putting things off. There will be plenty of wrong turns and failed attempts along the way, but as long as we pick ourselves up and return to moving toward the goal, we will always get there in the end.
So make the change. And when you get to where you are going, you will never look back.